Do You Stay Small?…And How To Change That Behavior
Are you indecisive because you don’t trust your own wisdom? Do you fear speaking your truth because you don’t want to hurt anyone? Do you compare yourself to others and feel you’re not enough? Do you fear trying something new but your own judgmental thoughts get in the way?
At some point I have experienced all of these scenarios. Have you?
What patterns and thoughts play in your head or in your energy keeping you small and from taking chances?
I get it, we all have limiting beliefs. I know staying small is comfortable and safe. BUT, if you really want deeper more fulfilling relationships, to improve your health or go for that new job you have to reach out of your comfort zone. BE BOLD, BE BRAVE, BE FEARLESS!
When I had my Nail Studio I used to run some of my thoughts by my clients. I loved my visits with them sharing and discussing life. But, sometimes by leaning on them too much I was giving away my energy and power which was draining. I didn’t realize what effect it had on me until I left my business. I was staying small because that was a habit of mine. Honestly, I knew the answers EVERY TIME but I didn’t trust my own gut opinion, my wisdom.
And, yes, you need a support group and yes it’s good to get advice, brainstorm with colleagues, get feedback, etc… but not to excessiveness when it becomes a crutch.
It’s been almost a year and a half since I closed my nail business. In the beginning months, I went through a grieving process missing all my clients. I still do, but in reality I was staying small. Depending on them instead of standing on my own. I’m grateful for them, my journey since and how I’ve expanded. I realized being indecisive was not serving me and I wanted to change that. Staying small was just an illusion of my own limiting beliefs…not reality.
I’m not small anymore! I say what I need to say with more confidence than ever and even started singing Karaoke. I’m proud of that!
How you ask?
I worked at it!! I sat alone A LOT with my thoughts and pondered more than ever. I worked with coaches, read books, journaled and meditated. I learned tools to recognize how to listen to my body for the answers. I’ve upleveled my inner strength, feel more empowered and trust my wisdom. I make decisions based on what serves my highest good and let go of what doesn’t.
How do you stay small?
Do you want to uplevel your life and change those behaviors?
Change doesn’t happen overnight and I’m here to help you!!
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With gratitude,
Meryl